Overcoming Obstacles
Day 16, Thursday: Something difficult about your "lot in life" and how you're working to overcome it
I'm not really one to complain, and quite frankly I don't have much to complain about; the only thing I can think of is the fact that I grew up in pretty much a one-parent household.
Because of this, I kind of have a negative opinion of the fatherly role.
I fully believe that a child can be raised in a loving, healthy one-parent environment.
You might be thinking, "Why is that a problem? I don't see anything difficult about that."
The difficult part is overcoming those feelings when trying to plan for my future.
Quite honestly, I would be perfectly content being a single mom, because I know it can be done and it can be done well. How will I be able to cope with having to share my children and the parental roles? Will I ever be able to hear "She's a daddy's girl," or "He looks just like his dad" without cringing?
I honestly don't know how to overcome these feelings; luckily, I don't have to do it anytime soon.
Does anyone have a similar experience or advice?
Awww I'm sorry you feel that way, but can understand why you do. I think that you will be able to overcome that fear because you will love your husband so much and so will the kids. It will be a happy feeling :)!
ReplyDeleteI completely understand your feelings [as much as it's possible to understand other people's feelings]. And I think it's only natural to fear the things we don't know. I think the important thing is to know you COULD be a single mom and be good at it - just as you could be a mom who meets the right man to share her child with!
ReplyDeleteI honestly think that, if you marry the right man and choose a good guy to start a family with, you will be able to overcome this no problem. You will love your husband so much, and that love will transfer over to the kids. Mike was pretty much raised by just his mom (when she got remarried, he was a teenager), so one of his biggest fears is being a good dad. I don't know what it's like to live without a good father figure (I've been incredibly lucky to have both parents there for me), but I can't imagine it. This isn't to say that single moms can't do a good job - there are so many out there that constantly amaze me with how much love and dedication they show to their kids - but there really is nothing like having a dad at home, as long as that relationship between both parents and children is loving and healthy.
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