I’ve never been one of those hopeless romantics who talks about their dating life non-stop, so I have never taken the time to write about how Jacob and I fell in love. In fact, most of my close friends don’t even know the story, so this post is certainly overdue!
Our love story actually started years before we even knew each other...you see, our moms were best friends in High School and they continued that friendship into
adulthood. Unfortunately, our mothers lived just far enough apart that it was
inconvenient for them to get together (and they had husbands who controlled
their every move), so ironically Jacob and I never actually got to meet when we were little. His family moved
to Arizona when he was 9 or 10, forcing our moms to keep in contact through the
occasional phone call, extremely rare visits, and mandatory Christmas card.
Because of this, Jacob and I grew up aware of each other but never thought
anything more of it (although, I did make numerous comments about “that cute
boy” in their family pictures).
When I was probably 17, mom made a trip
out to visit Jacob's mom (Kim) in Arizona. What I didn't realize, is that Kim
had told Jacob that I was probably coming with her and that he could help
entertain me (an obvious attempt to set us up), but I actually didn't go on
that trip. We'll chalk that one up to fate because he was a partying 23 at the
time, and wouldn't have been the least bit interested in an underage girl who
he had to babysit.
Fast forward a few years…Kim gets
diagnosed with cancer and the prognosis wasn't looking good. Mom made a few more trips out there to visit. After
spending a lot of time with Jacob and watching how he cared for his mother, mom
started making comments about how amazing he was. Unfortunately, Kim passed
away and never got the chance to see us together; however, it is 100% because
of her (and her unfortunate passing) that we are together.
You see…after his mom passed, I tracked
him down on facebook and sent him a message letting him know that I was there
if he needed anything. We may have sent a casual message here or there but
nothing serious. Then, as my mom's birthday approached in July I realized how
sad she was that she wouldn't have Kim to talk to on her birthday, so I
sneakily got Jacob's phone number from her phone and text him asking him to
reach out to my mom on her birthday. He did and of course mom was ecstatic to
have heard from him.
Now, having each other’s phone numbers, we
talked every couple of weeks. By December, we were talking every day and joking
about meeting each other. I finally got brave (probably a late night on Ambien)
and asked "what would you do if I showed up at your door one day?" I
don't recall his answer, but it was something to the extent of he would be
excited. That was my green light! I started looking at flights and booked a
weekend trip for March.
As Valentine's Day approached, he was
starting to feel me out to see if there were any other guys in the picture by
asking if I'd get flowers from anyone--I said “No...I never get flowers on
Valentine's Day.” As it turned out, I didn’t get flowers that Valentine’s Day
either, but not because of lack of effort on his end--he actually ordered flowers for me, but the flower shop was so busy that they didn't deliver
them that day. Towards the end of the day, he confessed that I should have received flowers--I was so surprised (and he was quite
angry)! Needless to say, when the flowers arrived the following day, I was swooning...
Stay tuned for Part 2 of our Love Story…
#1 YAY for you blogging, and #2 this is SUCH a story of fate. I got chills reading it and can't WAIT to read part two. Very well written too, I might add ;)
ReplyDelete<3 this. More! More!
ReplyDeleteConfession- I knew some of this story, but this made me teary anyway...
ReplyDeleteNew to these parts. Love this story! So sorry for your husbands loss so many years ago but its so cool how it brought you two together!
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